hi, my name is Javier and i am hoping to find somebody to help me. Well, it is about my son. i went to Peru last year in September and October and i met a girl by the name of Yenny, then when i came back to Italy, she and her family told me that she was pregnant by me....well, since then i have been helping her financially...until this last October,...the baby was born on July 14.......but now, it seems that she and her family dont want me to get involve, i stop sending them money on November ( altoghether i have sent them about 10 000 soles) since i knew she was pregnant until last November that i sent the last 100 Euros to la nanna, to Canete Peru. well, i dont know what to to. i dont know much about the peruvian law in Child law, etc... but, i feel that the babys mom and her family want to rip me off of all my rights, and also i think this is a bad thing for the baby, since i know that every child has the right to know about their parents...i wasnt be able to travel to Peru, because of immigration legal isues and work matters...since i am originally from Peru, and only work in Italy as a foreigner. Any sound advicing. Thanks a lot!! Javier Please i would appreciate any advice on what to do, or somebody that can help me out on this matter. Regards,
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I think the first thing you should do is find out if the kid is yours. If you are a native from Peru then surely you know somebody or someone that can at least take a look at the kid and try to find any visual appearance that might relate to you. Of course a kid can not look like you and be yours but some resemblance should be there. If there isnt the slightest resemblance then figure out steps to make sure its yours. If you know for a fact the kid is yours then make an attempt to contact the mom, not necessarily with money but a letter or phone calls. Ultimately if the kid is that important to you then consider traveling to Peru because this would be your first priority. Your immigration status should come second, if you dont care about the kid then it seems pretty easy to just forget about him and go on about your business in Italy.
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If you are not married, it's up to your girlfriend to declare the father of the baby. If she doesn't inscribe you, you would have to prove that the mother has asked you for support and request an ADN test. Once established as biological father you would have rights to make visits, you could demand her and ask from a judge to establish the visits. If they are mad at you, her family could easily beat you when you get there for leaving her pregnant plus you have abandoned her in that condition. However, not saying that this is the case, but also consider that some Peruvian girls do this to get money (as to have you sending money, or to get married to ensure alimony for life once divorced, to get to another country, or who knows). If you don't know her well enough, she may not be pregnant at all, her family may be performing advanced theater and perhaps she already lives with the next victim, so she wants you to stop contacting her. You could hire a private detective to get more information.
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I agree with Igor, nobody asks for money and then stops for no reason. Try to contact a lawyer or private investigator to check out at the MUNICIPALIDAD of CAÑETE for a birth certificate of the child, to see if there is one on her name and who is registered as the father. I know this girl who already has 2 children with 2 guys (one is a Narco in jail) and she has an Italian Fiance who is foolish enough to pay her bills, plastic surgery and many love trips to Iquitos, Morroco, Spain (she can't go to Italy because they don't give her a visa). And while she's not with him she contacted an American also on the internet (always older guys) and almost married this guy while conning the Italian dude! She bought her wedding dress and reservation at the ROSA NAUTICA with the Italian's money, but the "Gringo" didn't fall for her and brokeup. So now she is Monogamist again.
